An Unprecedented Collapse

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Equity, Equality and Justice for All
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A silent shadow is creeping across the land. I cannot yet discern its shape but it is deathly dark, arrogantly relentless and void of warmth as it rises defiantly. It reveals itself in the greed of the super-rich, the ruthless hunger for power among unethical politicians, the violence splintering the country and the fear that cowers human hearts.

It discharges anger and suffering until the air stinks with decay and oppression weights the shoulders. Cries for peace are suffocated with shrouds of hate. There is no simple, rational or ah-ha reason why democracy is slipping away. Now is a dangerous time

When the shadow crosses the Light, familiar touchstones, wellbeing and benchmarks are merely mirages that cannot be reached. Life suddenly becomes surreal.

Where is the strategy for a tomorrow that is a mere hallucination?

Historically, Americans have accepted challenges foisted on them and fought back. Today, they are gamed with intimidation and implicit threats by self-centered, arrogant legislators and lawyers, intent on creating a world of us-versus-them-thinking that magnifies our perceptions of difference rather than our shared fate.

In America, social bonds collapse as the economy fragments. Caring relationships have become luxuries. The sociological impact of polarization and increasing censure of one’s political opposites is an emergent consequence.

The pathology that stabs the soul, is that Americans appear to be content to simply watch one another die. They are not shocked and stunned or even resigned, but merely indifferent as their neighbors, friends, and colleagues die too soon and, often, alone.

Americans seem not to feel a need to stop this social predatory way of life. They turn their heads, shut their eyes and go about their daily business.

Bipartisanship has been chased into a darkened cavern guarded by power-incensed hypocrites. The current rhetoric of hostility to a perceived challenger has metamorphosed to an extreme level where revulsion is a stronger motivator than loyalty. Anger has become the primary tool proponents of negative partisanship use to rouse voters.

In a lucid world, there are some individual and societal benefits from political polarization and conflict between opposing viewpoints. Many individuals find it easier to understand and comprehend a partisan perspective rather than grapple with the complex approaches to issues and situations that include diverse pros and cons. There are economic perks for businesses that are able to take advantage of and monetize the behaviors of emotional partisans seeking corroboration for their opinions.

The original intent of establishing three separate branches of the federal government was to use open-minded analysis to work through conflict. Handled correctly, optimal solutions emerge from the process.

What happens, however, when elected representatives who refuse to negotiate, compromise or consider revision of their dogmas, dominate Congress? It has been shown that, when Legislators become so rigid they will not even acknowledge the needs of their constituents, policy actions, budget compromises and government-run national institutions are shuttered.

It is no secret that money is a titanic stimulus for elected representatives to cling to policy and courses of action favored by big money donors. Not surprisingly, such groups often obtain policy promises from candidates that exclude the concept of compromise.

The COVID19 pandemic displayed the disdain the federal government holds for traditional family institutions, religious institutions and the economic system. The lack of trust and respect for Scientific process, higher education, the mass media and the role of state government flashed like an I’m Okay -You’re not Okay message in holographic colors on our TV screens.

Such biting views of institutions and social structures promote distrust, anger and internal infighting, instead of active efforts to fix problems and address threats. Fake, fabricated news and information create confusion about the validity of current issues and the angry disagreement on essential, basic facts feed the loss of confidence in government.

Lack of accountability has become our operating principle.

Our domain has become a polarized society where people make snap judgments about others based solely on their political leanings. Gone is the custom of taking time to get to know people newly met to discover common interests. The purpose of the new meet and greet is to determine where someone stands on the political scale in reference to your position.

From this new perspective, individuals draw broad assumptions that define many aspects of who that person is. There is little thought of exploring what they have in common.

As polarization deepens, collaboration evaporates. Individuals are frightened to share their true beliefs with others because differing beliefs can lead to derision, arguments and even violence. Beliefs are self-filtered and, frequently, self-silenced.

An appetite for self-protection sprouts special-interest bubbles based on religion, sexuality, gender, race and many more categories. Inside the bubble, people cower among their counterparts and speak a mutually accepted language without fear of reprisal for words, ideas and concepts unacceptable to another group. Personal trust is strongly coupled with personal views on issues related to institutional trust, whether it is the military, police officers, business executives or religious leaders.

Paper the walls of the bubble with some unique brand of discourse – slanted social media, narrowly focused journalism, sensation-seeking media, pathological lies – and captivity is complete. The sound of new, different and novel conversation that could have led to solutions and compromises equally beneficial to all is muffled. Polarization intensifies as an insatiable force.

Take a deep breath and taste the toxic atmosphere created by current leaders and heads of state who play to the dark sides of human nature. The air is heavy with mistrust, fear, apprehension, cynicism, disenfranchisement and hatred of those who are seen as different. Blinded by the resulting haze, the circle of light spotlighting a true leader continues to blur.

This catastrophe of human prospects dishonors this country. The time has come to gather our essential baggage and seek a loftier position.

It is up to rational, empathic and determined Americans to find the critical path, recapture the common ground and salvage the American dream before the light fades to dark. We can only thwart malignant polarization if our efforts are in the interest of all persons and for the common good of everyone.

Such an undertaking demands solidarity and rejects any attempt to divide our country. Strive to promote conversations about the mutual needs of all people and do not back down from the truth that only some are getting their needs met. Cast-off chatter that activates harmful stereotypes.

This moment is where each person lives and where positive, powerful action is possible. Now is that time to live as though your positive acts will jolt a chain reaction, culminating in paybacks beyond imagination.

What we imagine becomes what we build. What if we actively imagined and willfully designed a new culture focused on equity that is worthy of cheers and devoid of fears? It is not only possible, but probable. Did mankind not have the courage and foresight to leave the caves behind?

Ground yourself in reality. Follow the yoga practice of becoming aware of your feet touching solid ground and listen to the whisper of the guru. Feel your feet, feel your feet. We desperately need everyone to feel their feet.

Diversity may be the hardest thing for a society to live with, and perhaps the most dangerous thing for a society to live without. ~ William Sloane Coffin Jr.

The Mystique of Kindness

Shows the importance of being kind
Only one act of kindness and caring can change a person’s life.
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In today’s climate of anguished hopelessness, fearless optimism is vital. The current trend is to disdain what you hear; an acknowledgment that it may be fake news, a conspiracy, a ruse or a lie.  

Never doubt that words and ideas can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.

Mindfulness falters because it is difficult to remain aware of your thoughts and feelings and not be consumed by them. Only a true optimist grasps onto the promise that even if the road is pitted at least it is leading somewhere and when you arrive, someone will be waiting.

It is not easy to ban negative thoughts; tussling with them only makes them worse and struggle brings no joy and rarely any reward.  The best you can do is label them as possibilities and not facts.

Such melancholy thoughts flourish because we are sharing the stage right now with a pandemic determined to engulf the world. Many communities are experiencing panic, fear worry, and suffering.  Stress has been unleashed like a nuclear explosion.

What now? Can this unprecedented time transform the selfish, power-seeking and malicious behavior surrounding us and allow the deeply ingrained instinct to help, support and protect those we care, depend and rely upon to emerge as a united, compassionate and kinder human race? 

I find myself filled with hope at the tenacity, courage and selflessness of all the amazing people who have stepped up, even at their own peril, to put others first. Stepping up to the plate when the game depends on you is not just a difficult choice, it is a brave decision. In the face of hopelessness, it is also the necessary choice if we are to find a balance between belief or despair and hope or fear.

At the same time, we have seen a contagion of kindness that appears to be bonding us as a community, a society and a world. Kindness offers shelter for the wounded, weary from far too many confrontations. Kindness is the golden chain that bonds us together. Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change.

Kindness touches life in all its detail. A small kindness can bring a big result but a sincerely ambitious kindness can change the world. Kindness, freely available to all who wish to practice it, vastly increases the effectiveness of your efforts in a way that seems almost mystical.

Let kindness choose what you say, for once your words are said, they cannot be recalled. While many words fall on deaf ears, careless words can wrongly harm someone’s life. Your words, even if intended to be supportive, have consequences if they are misunderstood as a call to arms, an affront or dismissive.

But be aware that silence can be highly unethical – if not dangerous. Silence should not deceive, allowing others to believe what we know for certain is not true. We must speak out in the face of injustice, abuse and wrongdoing. We implicitly know when it is morally unacceptable to remain silent and the moment to stop second-guessing our gut and speak up; to “speak truth to power.”

Don’t assume no one knows the content of the thoughts you conceal in your mind. The quality of your thoughts creates the quality of your life. If your head is filled with positive thoughts, there is no room for hatred. When confronted with injustice, silence is a toxic strategy.

As William Faulkner once said, “Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world … would do this, it would change the earth.”

The appreciation of kindness is the genesis of wisdom.

Those thoughts and deeds instilled as part of you are those that recur over and over until they root deep in your soul, throw out roots that spring up as new formations. Being kind is not a sign of weakness but strength. If you can do a single act of kindness once, you can do it again.

Satiate your relationships with kindness and candor to crowd out conflict. The positive energy of kindness flowing among friends blocks negative energy and prevents harmful vibes from infusing precarious situations. How good it feels to be kind!

Time is randomly elusive, creeping maddingly or accelerating along the fast track. Be cognizant of how you spend each exquisite moment with which you have been so richly blessed. There is so very much for which to live. Whether it’s stinging regrets or joyful triumphs, find the value there, accept it and move resolutely in a positive direction. Shrug off any lingering envy, anger or despair.

Too often we forget to be kind to ourselves. Often, we look, but refuse to see; we listen, but not ever hear; we exist, but never feel. Success is tenuous if we don’t already have our own love, acceptance and compassion. Honor the unique gifts that you alone can give. Life craves for all you have to offer and is waiting for you to plunge into the bona fide experience of living and giving it your all.

Compassion is about giving all the love that you’ve got.

Kindness is intrinsic to us. When we expose vulnerably in moments of fear, we affirm that we are alive and that we are enough. When that happens, we can still the cries and heed the necessities of those around us as kinder, better and more empathetic people. Human kindness strengthens the stamina and toughens the fiber of a free people.

A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.

We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone. Do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are. So, the next time you find yourself in that state of fear, confused about which way to turn, don’t stay quiet, don’t suffer in silence! Raise your hand and ask for help. Be honest, keep asking, and don’t give up until you find what you need.

Keep moving instinctively through opening paths toward one another.

One admonition that, if not heeded, can disrupt any advancement and restart past disastrous cycles, dropping us off at the same place of pain and frustration at which we started.

You must listen to what is being said to you. It may be the grace that saves us all.

My wish for you is that you continue to demand equity. Continue to be who and how you are, to astonish a callous world with your acts of kindness. Continue to permit humor to lighten the burden of your caring heart. To err on the side of kindness is rarely an error. It is never too soon to share kindness, for you never know how soon it will be too late (Ralph Waldo Emerson.)

Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates an infinite ripple that will not be depleted of its vitality or strength, but will wear well and be remembered long after the dissonance and din of inequity has faded.

Sing a song of hope. Let everyone write a line and add to the melody.

“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”—Martin Luther King, Jr.